Monday, January 13, 2014

A Spanking and Grooming......Two For The Price Of One

Nothing too deep or profound to share today, just something that was a bit of a new experience and left such a nice impression on me.  This morning I received an affirmation/maintenance spanking.   J warmed me up with his hand, and then pulled out the hairbrush -- something he's used only a couple of times before.  In fact, I'd kind of forgotten about it and thought he did, too.  I was secretly glad that he'd thought of it.





I know this photo is tiny, but I don't know how to make it bigger.




While over his knee, he told me he would like me to answer his questions with "You, Sir".


Who protects you?

You, Sir.

Who loves you?

You, Sir.

Who is in charge?

You, Sir.

Who makes the final decisions?

You, Sir.


I thought about how I felt when I called J "Sir".  I wanted it to come from my heart, and it did.  I recalled how, not too long ago, when I'd brought up the subject, (about a year or two ago), of how some women call their HOH's "Sir" at certain times, J had said he didn't think it was all that important to him.  I wasn't sure how I felt about it.  I wondered if I could ever do so seriously, and mean it.  I admit I wanted him to require it of me at times.  He's done this only one or two other times, and I wasn't sure if he was serious about it.  It felt a little odd, but I wasn't opposed to it.

J doesn't always ask me to address him this way.  What I'm discovering is that when he does, he is serious.  He likes it when I call him "Sir".  He likes the respect.  He deserves the respect -- my respect.

After J was finished spanking me, and while I was still over his knee, he began brushing my hair.  He commented on the dual purpose of the hairbrush, which made me smile.  It felt so soothing and comforting as he brushed my hair.







My, how he's changed.  My, how we've both changed  :)

18 comments:

  1. The sir thing catches me too b/c it is only expected at certain times. Sometimes when I have nodded or said "yes" he gives me a "pardon me?" and I know that he expects me to say it. I haven't quite figured it out but there is that small tingle inside.

    I love having my hair brushed. :)

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    1. Today I came home from an appointment and had chores to do after lunch. I really wanted to go online for a bit first, so I texted J.

      "Just got home. Having something to eat. May I please go on the internet for a bit before doing chores and laundry?"

      "You may if I get a YES SIR"

      "YES SIR!!!"

      "You have my permission."

      HOH's.........sigh............gotta love 'em. :)

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  2. Wow Sadie, that's sounds so nice. My husband has never brushed my hair in all the years we've been married. I think it would be a very intimate thing. I tried calling my husband sir once. He didn't like it much. I'm hoping that in time he'll see it's a way for me to show respect and submission. Until then, I won't be saying it.

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    1. Hi Queenie, welcome to my blog! Thank you for commenting :)

      Have you ever asked your husband to brush your hair? Maybe he doesn't know how much you'd like it. Sometimes I ask J simply to run his fingers through my hair -- it comforts me.

      On the 'sir' thing, who knows? Your husband may eventually change his mind. Just like when we, as couples, had to get used to (them) giving and (our) receiving spankings. I couldn't even say the word 'spanking' out loud to J for the longest time in the beginning!

      In the meantime, you can always call him "Sir" in your mind (and heart) :)

      Hugs,
      Sadie

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  3. Ahhhhhh.. Very sweet.

    I usually only pull sir out when I am in super big trouble, so he knows I know that I am super big trouble. :0)

    Alex likes to brush my hair and it is one of my favorite things. I have long hair and he hates when I get my hair cut, even gets critical when I go for a trim. Really funny.

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    1. J likes my hair long, too, Irish Lucky. He's OK with the trims, though, since I don't actually get my hair cut shorter -- kinda just keeps it at the same length.

      So when you pull sir out when you're in super big trouble, is that of your own volition, or does your husband require it? Does it help ease the punishment any?

      Hugs,
      Sadie

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    2. He never has asked me to call him sir...Does it help...Yes, I think it helps him gage where I am at in the situation, but I can't say that it helps ease the punishment any. Grrrrr. I think maybe sir would pop out more often if that was the case. :0)

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    3. This is true....for all of us, I'm sure...lol.

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    1. Thanks, Sara. I thought so, too :)

      Hugs,
      Sadie

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  5. Nice post Sadie. Growing up military I was used to responding with sir. It does show a level of respect. While I have not been requesed to necessarily do so, I send a daily text saying good morning or afternoon sir, just to keep my head in the right spot of submission. I can say over the recent weeks, if hubby is getting irate with my responses or behavior, if I respond with a yes sir, things go much better for me. I too, take pleasure in knowing it holds special significance for us.. andI believe he has earned this much.

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    1. So the "Sir" comes easily to you, Catherine -- good for you!

      And so respectful that you choose to call him that on your own at times. I'm sure he really appreciates that.

      Hugs,
      Sadie

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  6. When we first started Dd and Barney would read blogs with me he said two things, " Please don't ever call me Daddy or Sir" Of course he has said a LOT of things and has since changed his mind. Pretty sure the Daddy thing isn't going to enter our house- okay by me. Not sure about the Sir. He did say I could answer " Yes Barney" ( okay sounds better when you use his real name...LOL) as a sign of respect.

    Barney has never brushed my hair, but then again *I* don't brush my hair. I'd look like a fryed poodle if he did! But ya know your thing was sweet! Just make sure J doesn't get confused in the heat of the moment!

    love
    willie

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    1. HA, Willie, wouldn't that be something? I much prefer to keep the bruising limited to my bottom....

      Love,
      Sadie

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  7. I saw 'yes, sir' all the time to strangers, coworkers, my 6-year old, but I can't say it to my husband with a straight face. I did once in bed though and it was super hot.

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    1. Oh? Do tell, Leah......lol.

      Love,
      Sadie

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  8. Saying "Sir" felt really awkward at first but once I got past the awkwardness I realized that the times he wants me to use it are the times I need the reminder that he's in charge. He will expect hearing Sir when I ask for something after a punishment/correction. And honestly, I need to use it then. It takes away that lingering edgy feeling of I was right and I'd rather bite the hand that just spanked me than admit I was wrong. Each time I say it, it gets easier and has more value. It doesn't feel as faked and forced as it used to and it helps get my head in the right place. Still one of those things that's hard to say or write though, lol. Yes, sometimes I call my husband Sir and it's not in play.

    Sorry I was so late to this, Clara

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    1. It's a good reminder to me that J is in charge, too, Clara. Takes a while to get past the awkwardness, like you said. Then it starts to become more natural....kinda like spanking, no?

      Love,
      Sadie

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