Tuesday, February 25, 2014

A Little Comic Relief

One morning last week (or was it the week before?), during the early morning darkness, Kane and I had awoken and started talking.  It wasn't long before the topic of the situation with our daughter came up.  We are presently involved and dealing with a host of professionals, many of whom do not share our belief that our daughter is not safe at home and are working fervently against us. So I got a bit fired up.  As we continued talking, my anger at the system came right to the surface, and I started talking to all of 'them' as if they were there (kind of like......"Take THAT, you SO AND SO").....get the picture?  Does anyone else ever have imaginary conversations, or am I the only one?

So I got on my soapbox, while Kane listened and watched with amusement ('course, this isn't the first time he's witnessed me doing this).  I started spouting some choice expletives in my passionate rant, and my loving husband understood my need to do this. First of all, I would NEVER speak that way to him, and I also would never speak that way to anyone in a REAL conversation.  He knew this.

At one point, I shot straight up in bed, arm raised in the air, finger pointing for emphasis, and continued.

Blah blah blah blah......Take THAT, you %&!#*'s.  And if you think you're gonna take US down, well you got another thing comin' to ya.  &*%^$ you!!!

After I was done, I lay back down.  Kane quickly turned me over and started smacking my bottom.  It was still dark.  I asked him what he was doing.  He told me he likes when I am sassy and feisty when I need to be in certain situations, and then said (what he's said before), "as long as you're not sassy and feisty toward me."  The man was speaking from past experience -- not recent past experience, mind you, but past experience, nonetheless.  And to reiterate, he was speaking of my attitude, not the actual words, because we do not speak that way to each other. 

Well, I'm not being sassy and feisty toward you -- you know that.

"I know.  And this is a reminder for you not to be."

Oh, so this is a pre-emptive spanking?

Mm hmmm.

Guess there's a first time for everything.  And I felt a whole lot better -- 

1.   for having been able to vent and release some pent-up tension


2.  having been taken care of by my attentive and caring husband

Hope that made you laugh a bit.  We sure did  :-P

Monday, February 24, 2014

This Too Shall Pass

It's going to take quite a while to find our way out of this maze, but eventually we will.  In the meantime, we have been buoyed by the love and support of many dear family and friends, and that includes you all here in Blogland.

Not much new to report, except things are not going in the direction we'd hoped, but of this we are confident:  there will be resolution in one way or another.

Monday, February 17, 2014

Update.....More Waiting

The court date we had been awaiting has been rescheduled.  As it turns out, this is a good thing where Kane and I are concerned.  It had only just come to our attention on Thursday that additional information concerning our daughter's illness would most likely prove advantageous to our case.  This will require more research and will involve my composing and compiling several documents, and had our court date not been rescheduled, there would not have been enough time to do it the justice it requires.  In addition, I came down with a nasty head cold on Thursday and felt miserable and spent the weekend in bed.

I would have given it my best shot, of course, but now we have three weeks' time in which to get it accomplished.  God works in mysterious ways..........  To say that I am relieved would be an understatement, to say the least.

Thank you all for your continued support  :)

From Kane:

Thank you to all those who have given advice and an ear to lean on during an extremely stressful time in our lives. What a week it has been, first I get a cold and then I hand it off to Sadie. She took care of me when I was sick and I got to return the favor yesterday. Suffice it to say we have taken a hiatus for a few days from the dynamic, but we are both on the mend and I am feeling HOH-y again.

Back to our situation:  everything is on hold for now due to circumstances beyond our control. Things being delayed is a good thing because now we can regroup and get all our paperwork in order. As Sadie has so eloquently written in her latest post, the mental health care system in our country is broken. I know all those in blog land have no idea who we are, but we are good people. I love our daughter as if she were my own biological child; people have commented that we even look alike. She is mentally ill.  This is not a subjective statement; it is a fact. Some of this is biochemical, neglect in the birth home, and adolescence.  We cannot ensure her safety or ours if she were to come home now. This breaks our hearts, as we have tried so hard to get her the help she so desperately needs, but the system doesn't care about this. Their agenda is clear -- get the child back in the home and write her off their case list. This is due to the fact that there are not enough services available to meet the need.  We cannot control the system, only prepare ourselves for any eventuality. 

I can control one thing -- when Sadie gets another spanking, and I have a hankering for a spankering. I am going to work out after I write this, have to get my spanking arm in shape again. Thank you to all who have given and shown your support and kept us in your prayers; it means a lot to us.


Sunday, February 9, 2014


I've had various ideas in my head for posts this past week -- even started one that is now in my draft folder.  They'll have to wait, however, as I find myself very preoccupied and drained of energy.

Kane and I have a situation regarding one of our children, and for now, things are in limbo.

A decision will be rendered not too long from now (this week, in fact) regarding our daughter and her future placement.  I can't go into much detail, for obvious reasons, but suffice it to say it's been a very stressful time this past year, especially the past month.

This daughter struggles with mental illness, stemming back to the time she lived with her biological mother before coming to live with me and my family and eventually being adopted.

Her illness has worsened over time (she is in her teens), and she is not safe to be at home.  She needs to be in a therapeutic treatment facility.  The problem is our mental health system is in a terrible state of disrepair, and getting the help for our daughter that she needs has been extremely difficult.  Kane and I are dealing with a system that is fighting us on this issue.

There was a segment that aired on 60 Minutes two weeks ago that highlighted this problem.  If you have a few minutes, this will shed some light on what we've been going through.  If you don't have time now, the link, for future reference, is

Anyway, that's where it's at for us right now.  Life seems as if it's on hold.  Kane and I are doing well, I'm glad to say........I don't know what I'd do without him.