I haven't had that kind of spanking in a LONG time.....those kinds for me have always been punishments. Kane has learned how to spank me gradually during maintenance, which has lessened bruising significantly. My friend and I talked about that, too, and how we even like having bruises on our butts. I remember some really pretty shades of purple. They always bothered Kane, though. He hated to see them. It bothered him to know he'd caused them, even though I told him I was fine with them. Heck, I would pull a hand mirror out of my bathroom closet several times a day to admire his handiwork.
At the very least, my friend and I agreed that it was the ever-present reminder that kept us feeling in that soft, submissive place.
I know I could ask Kane for an extra dose of heavy-handedness, but that would most likely mean that he would use the wooden paddle he made, which he 'affectionately' refers to as 'The Black Hand'. I can't tolerate too many of those. I guess I could ask him to use his hand at full-force strength. Gulp.
Alas, I am a big weanie when it comes to pain. Oh, the connundrum.....sigh........